August 8th, 2014
It’s been hard when people have told me “Brynn looks just like you at that age” because the truth is, I’m a #koreanadoptee and I only have 3 pictures of me when im a newborn. Now brynn is almost the same age as me when I came to America and I can really say yes, my daughter looks a lot like me : )

It’s been hard when people have told me “Brynn looks just like you at that age” because the truth is, I’m a #koreanadoptee and I only have 3 pictures of me when im a newborn. Now brynn is almost the same age as me when I came to America and I can really say yes, my daughter looks a lot like me : )

August 4th, 2014

peaceshannon:

great article… this is a great precursor to questions that people ask me about how to adopt ethically. 

My biological mom shared with me that after she was born, her mom was going to place her for adoption. When the adoptive parents showed up, her grandmother (my great grandmother) stepped in and stopped it.

Typically, when I try to have a conversation with her about my own pain of the grief and loss of being adopted, it turns to a conversation about her pain of ALMOST being adopted. She suffers a great deal from this. It is a part of her life that is difficult for her to process and she tends to speak a lot about it.

[if you’re not adopted] You will be taught to view adoption as wonderful for those needy children who get adopted. A family is created and everyone is happy or so they insinuate.

That is exactly how my biological mom views adoption. She says that most adopted people are happy they got adopted. I’m not sure how she reconciles the fact that she ALMOST got adopted and it is very upsetting to her, yet, my adoption should lead me to a happy place. I’m still working on figuring that one out.

Regardless, you will most likely never know that possibly, your mother wasn’t in a great situation at the time you made an appearance and possibly, someone played upon those insecurities to persuade her to place you for adoption. Possibly, a neighbor or clergy or relatives looked at you as that needy child who could use a better home than the one you were born into.

Was your mom single, broke, young, immature or just plain not good enough for someone around her?

If she fell into any ONE of those labels, it could have been you sitting here adopted. Adoption might not feel so wonderful and fuzzy when you think of yourself as the one who had been given up.

And if one of those categories applied to her, the only reason she didn’t place you for adoption was because she found a way out. Someone helped her. Someone stepped up. Someone stepped in.

Instead of continuing the facade of how society wants us to view adoption, is it possible that you could be that someone for a mother to be?

Great article and for once, the [first few] comments didn’t make me want to bash my head in. They were intelligent, well-informed comments that added to the dialog instead of pissed off rants.

I will continue to reiterate that even though I’m in my mid 20s and finished college and seem to be at an okay stage in life to parent…still, without the support of my family, government and social systems and cultural acceptance, I would have been in the exact same situation as many women are that are forced to think adoption is the only way. Family preservation, reproductive education, social acceptance, support for working parents… that needs to be the new focus.

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Good morning..We’re still sleepy! #dachshund #doxies

Good morning..We’re still sleepy! #dachshund #doxies

August 3rd, 2014
Someone asked for a life update since I never blog anymore.. sorry everyone!  But here it is…

My chubby baby Brynn is very healthy, learning new things every day and such a joy!  I honestly can’t believe how big she has gotten… almost 19 lbs, 26 inches long and 4.5 months old now. I finally “came out” on facebook with her when she was 2 months old. Everyone has been nothing but supportive,  even Korean people. Although I get a lot of awkward… so when did you get married/thinking Joonwoo was the dad conversations. But.. I stopped caring. This is America where there are a lot more scandalous things going on than a single mom.

I have a legit, real job now… full time,  benefits and everything! I’m an administrative assistant at a Probation and Parole office. I was really skeptical about it because I have to commute about 45 min each way.. and criminal justice was never really my focus when I was studying sociology. But I really really love it. Every day is full of hilarious drama and crazy stories. My bosses and coworkers are so amazing and kind and helpful. It’s such a world of difference from Samsung and Korea where I had the most sketchy boss and bitchy coworkers. I’m really very happy and hope to start my masters in social work next fall as well.

I have only talked to my bio aunt once since I got back. My student Jim was kind enough to talk to my aunt about Brynn and we texted back and forth. She was shocked but glad I was doing ok. Not sure if she has told my birthmom that she’s a grandma but I know it can wait since she’s had a rough last year. Also, with my excellent fb stalking skills, I found my half sister and brothers profiles. Of course I will never add them but I have a picture of my brother now. My sister had no pictures at all.. but at least I know she’s out there. 

And my life.. I mostly just hang out with my parents a lot, meet up with my girl friends and spend time with my other relatives. I did become an aunt again.. to a nephew and 5 puppies! My sister in law and dog gave birth on the same day last week! But otherwise nothing too exciting to ever blog about! 

Again, everyone,  thanks for following and feel free to follow my instagram (c_sunmi) as long as puppy and baby pics don’t annoy you ; )

Someone asked for a life update since I never blog anymore.. sorry everyone! But here it is…

My chubby baby Brynn is very healthy, learning new things every day and such a joy! I honestly can’t believe how big she has gotten… almost 19 lbs, 26 inches long and 4.5 months old now. I finally “came out” on facebook with her when she was 2 months old. Everyone has been nothing but supportive, even Korean people. Although I get a lot of awkward… so when did you get married/thinking Joonwoo was the dad conversations. But.. I stopped caring. This is America where there are a lot more scandalous things going on than a single mom.

I have a legit, real job now… full time, benefits and everything! I’m an administrative assistant at a Probation and Parole office. I was really skeptical about it because I have to commute about 45 min each way.. and criminal justice was never really my focus when I was studying sociology. But I really really love it. Every day is full of hilarious drama and crazy stories. My bosses and coworkers are so amazing and kind and helpful. It’s such a world of difference from Samsung and Korea where I had the most sketchy boss and bitchy coworkers. I’m really very happy and hope to start my masters in social work next fall as well.

I have only talked to my bio aunt once since I got back. My student Jim was kind enough to talk to my aunt about Brynn and we texted back and forth. She was shocked but glad I was doing ok. Not sure if she has told my birthmom that she’s a grandma but I know it can wait since she’s had a rough last year. Also, with my excellent fb stalking skills, I found my half sister and brothers profiles. Of course I will never add them but I have a picture of my brother now. My sister had no pictures at all.. but at least I know she’s out there.

And my life.. I mostly just hang out with my parents a lot, meet up with my girl friends and spend time with my other relatives. I did become an aunt again.. to a nephew and 5 puppies! My sister in law and dog gave birth on the same day last week! But otherwise nothing too exciting to ever blog about!

Again, everyone, thanks for following and feel free to follow my instagram (c_sunmi) as long as puppy and baby pics don’t annoy you ; )

Life update? Truly hope things are going well for you!!!
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Thank you! I really appreciate I still have followers since I never blog anymore! I will do an update post for you :)

papershopprojects:

huffingtonpost:

HERE’S WHAT ‘YELLOW FEVER’ REALLY MEANS

"All my ex-girlfriends are Asian."

If you’ve ever come across this charming come-on, you’ve probably been exposed to yellow fever

For her full rant watch the video here.

YES, THERE IS NOW A MUCH NEEDED GIF SET FOR THIS!

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The awkwardness of being a transracial adoptee mom:

When I’m with my daughter and my dad, it looks like I like dudes who are way older than me or am a mail order bride.

When I’m with my daughter and almost 17 year old nephew, it looks like I’m a teenage mom.

I really do not know what’s worse.

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same

Awesome.

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June 28th, 2014
koreanmodel:

Kim Heeae by Hong Janghyun for 1st Look Magazine Feb 2014

Gorg.

koreanmodel:

Kim Heeae by Hong Janghyun for 1st Look Magazine Feb 2014

Gorg.

Date someone who gives you the same feeling of when you see your food coming at a restaurant

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Too great not to reblog

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